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November 5, 2009 2 comments

It may sound strange, but here’s one suggestion God offers: go to a funeral. In Ecclesiastes 7:2 God says, It is better to go to a house of mourning than to a house of feasting, for death is the destiny of every man; the living should take this to heart. I just got finished doing both–I went to a house of mourning, and I took it to heart.


It’s Wednesday at 3:57 pm. I just returned to my office from the funeral of 17 year-old, high school senior Mallerie Graves, who ended her battle with cancer this past Sunday morning.

Almost unbearable…that’s how I would describe what it felt like to witness the family’s heartbreak (can’t imagine how the family felt).

Unshakeable…that’s how I’d describe Mal’s and her family’s faith. Watching Mal’s mom, in the eye of her ultimate storm, nodding her head in affirmation to the lyrics of I Will Praise You In This Storm was incredibly moving and faith-building. Wow! Praise God!

With the tears rolling down my cheeks I kept recalling Ecclesiastes 7:2 and kept pondering what the sobering reality of death offers the living. Mal’s full (albeit too short) life forced me to contemplate the unlived aspects of my own life and to ask myself a series of questions–questions that seemed so obvious in view of death:

  • Why do I not tell Heather, Haven, and Pierce how much I love them every day?
  • Why do Heather and Haven and Pierce not regularly find notes from me in unexpected places?
  • Why do I allow stress or a bad mood to ruin an entire evening at home?
  • Why am I not more patient?
  • Why am I not more loving?
  • Why do we not sit around the dinner table and thank God for all the good in our lives every single day?
  • Why do I ever allow Haven’s Bible-story-and-prayer bedtime routine to become routine?
  • Why is our home not bursting with laughter and joy and faith continually?

I think I know why. It’s because I take most todays for granted. It’s because I don’t see every day for the blessed miracle that it is. The memory of Mal’s life today reminded me to embrace every day and live it fully to the glory of God. A poster near where I was standing captured my thoughts perfectly: Fear not death but the unlived life.

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